The Book Every 20-Something Should Read

That’s right, I said it.

This is the book every 20-something should read.

I devoured The Defining Decade by Meg Jay. Let me tell you why.

First of all, self-help books are so hit or miss for me. I’ve read a few self-help books that have been amazing, but I’ve read some and been so mehhh. This one is definitely worth the read.

theWhat our author, Meg Jay, says is that our current society keeps telling us how much your twenties “don’t matter” — that “30 is the new 20”. That your twenties are more or less an extended adolescence; a time for binge drinking on all nights of the week, casual sex, and doing everything possible to avoid entering the “real world” for as long as you can.

I already believed your twenties were a critical time period of life before I read this book, but as I was reading I realized more and more how important this decade really is. So much of the best things (and most desired things) in life take planning, lots of work, and foresight. If you want A, B, and C in your 30’s and 40’s, you need to do X, Y, and Z in your 20’s.

Successful people don’t just wake up one day with everything they’ve ever wanted at their finger tips. They put the work in and stay persistent. 

Your twenties do matter, and that shouldn’t scare you or make you nervous it should excite you! Right now in your twenties – more than any other time in your life – you are crafting your life for the future. And while it may seem like avoiding adulthood and skating by this decade will keep everything at bay, it won’t. Like it or not, your life is not an accident. It is a giant display of all of the choices you’ve made along the way.

Not only do I believe your twenties matter, I believe your twenties are the most important decade of your life. The decisions you make (or don’t make) in your twenties often shape you into the person you become in your 30’s, 40’s and for the rest of your life.

If you’re in your early twenties are you’re totally freaking out about life right now listen to me. Make good choices, work really hard, do what you believe in your heart to be right, and always help others when you can. If you do those four things, I promise you, you are going to be ok. Not only will you be ok, but you will thrive.

It might not happen today, or tomorrow, or even next week, but it will happen. Read this book. You won’t regret it.

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Is there a book you think every 20-something should read?

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  • It’s scary to think how much your 20’s can really shape your life, but I love what you said that if you focus on just a few little things it can really pay off. I can’t believe that my 20’s are almost over, but I do feel like I’m ready to take the plunge into my 30’s!

    • yay for 30!!! please don’t call it “dirty thirty” though. i do NOT understand why people call it that at all. LOL

  • Such am amazing book! I read this a year ago and still think about it. Perfect recommendation for 20 year olds!

    • so many people recommended it to me! I’m slightly embarrassed it took me so long to actually get around to reading it, but luckily I still have 5 years of my 20’s to put it’s advice into effect, haha 🙂

  • I haven’t heard of this book but I think I need to read it asap!