Most of my life I was pretty anti Valentine’s Day. I just found it to be a silly holiday. I didn’t really like talking about feelings, wasn’t particularly fond of flowers, I’d pick a mob movie over a rom-com any day.
Fast forward to my mid-twenties and my heart of stone has melted..some. Something about time and certain experiences made me really realize how important love really is – not just in my own life, but in the world.
The best thing about love is that there is a million different kinds of it. It comes in literally all shapes and sizes. But when it comes to Valentine’s Day most people stop at romantic love. They think February 14th, is about candle lit dinners, roses, and chocolate; but it’s about so much more. Love is the one thing that unites us all. I don’t think I’ll ever be a super emotional person (I’ve never cried over a book, or a movie, or even a TV show — although, last night’s episode of This Is Us had me super close), but I love love, in every form, and I think the answer to a lot of problems, is more love.
I don’t think you should boycott romantic Valentine’s Day, but I’d like to encourage you to think about Valentine’s day in another way. Here are 4 people (who aren’t your significant other) I think you should love on this Valentine’s Day.
Your best girl friend(s)
We’ve all got that one girlfriend, or a few girlfriends, who have been with us through everything. They’ve listened to us cry, heard us whine, have given us advice, and shown us compassion when we’ve needed it most. These are once in a life time people – let them know that. Pick them up their favorite drink from Starbucks and surprise them at work. Or if you’re too busy for that, just send them a card, or a text telling them why you love them so much.
Not everyone is blessed with amazing, loving, understanding parents. If you’re one of the lucky ones who have incredible parents, let them know how much you appreciate them. A parent’s love is the purest kind of love in the entire world. When I think back on all of the times growing up I was a little shit, and didn’t even deserve a handshake let alone love and understanding, my parents truly seem like super heroes to me. Send them a card, or make time to call them on that day (no matter how busy you are). I guarantee they’ll appreciate the gesture so much.
It’s so weird how your relationship with your siblings changes as you get older. You go from living down the hall from them for most of your life and hating their guts 98% of the time, to moving on to your own life and cherishing all of your time with them. I know this is definitely the case for me. On on hand, my sister lives in Europe and I only see her a few times a year. On the other hand, I see my brother quite often. They’re both awesome and two of my favorite people who mean so much to me. I always make sure to send them a text or call them and let them know how much I love them.
My grandmother passed away this past summer. She was an amazing lady for a number of reasons, and I have so many good memories of her, but one of my favorite’s is of her sending me valentine’s day cards every year as a child. Years later, when I got older, I started sending her Valentine’s Day cards. It was such a small gesture, but I could tell how much she valued that simple card telling her how much I loved her.
The person who can’t thank you
A few weeks ago when we were in Florida, my husband paid for the dinner of a Vietnam vet without him knowing. We left before he got his check and we didn’t know him, so we knew there was no way he could thank us. Doing something for someone who can never re-pay you or will never even know it was you who did it, is the love to the Nth degree. Maybe you can’t buy someone dinner, but maybe you can buy the person behind you in the drive-thru’s coffee. Do something for no other reason other then wanting to put more love out into the world.