An old family friend once told me, “dear, if you’re waiting till everything is perfect, you’re waiting till your dead”. He was completely right, the only time in our lives when all of our worries are completely gone is once we’ve been sent up to meet our maker. In the mean time, we need to get comfortable having things imperfect. So how do we do that?
Take things day by day
My senior year of high school was one of the toughest years of my life. I had a lot of really heavy things thrown at me all at one time. When I would sit there and think to myself “I have alllll year at this school yet.” I would cringe at the thought. Instead I started thinking to myself, “I just need to get through today, do the best I can today and we can go from there”. I didn’t realize what a small re-frame of my thoughts could do. Honestly, the year was over before I knew it.
I am very good at looking at the big picture, which is a good skill set, but in all honesty when it comes to contentment, the easiest way to achieve it is to not look too far into the future and to realize that the best way to get where you want is by doing the best you can day by day.
Make daily rituals that you enjoy
Even if you’re on your way to some thing/place bigger and better, it’s important to make time for daily rituals that you enjoy right now. Even if they are stupid little things, if they lighten your mood, they are important. One of the things that really calms me down and brings me peace and contentment, is getting up early, sipping a cup of coffee, and reading my bible. Without fail, this always puts me in a grateful mood ready to take on the day, and grateful for the beautiful struggle that is life.
Realize this moment/situation/time once it’s over may never come back, and at some point you will probably miss it.
I am a self proclaimed “anti-college” at this stage in my life. While there are parts of it I love, I feel for the most part like “I’m over it”.
i know it’s important for me to realize the stresses of being an adult are going to be a lot to handle, even if i feel like i’m ready for it. i try to remind myself as much as possible, that even though it annoys me now, i will someday miss the freedoms of college. drinking on thursday nights? not in the big kid world! taking a months worth of laundry home to my mom? i don’t think so. no mortgage or car payment? yeah, dream on. every stage in life, you will probably miss at some point when it’s gone, do your best to enjoy it while you can.
Have a support system
I used to be the kind of person who wanted to handle everything myself. Going to other people for help or guidance made me feel weak and needy. While it’s a noble idea that we can take on the world by ourselves it’s incredibly unrealistic. Life is hard, and it’s not meant to be done alone. Do yourself a favor and let people in. Confide in people you trust, break down to people who will help build you back up and always tell them how important they are to you.
Get comfortable being uncomfortable
During my junior year of college I drove down to Nashville to take part in a huge job fair. The day before the job fair we had a panel of GM’s speak to us, give us advice, and open up the floor for any questions we had. One of the GM’s was asked what his one most important piece of advice would be us. He chuckled a little to himself and then said, “get comfortable being uncomfortable.” As soon as the word’s left his mouth I thought: that’s genius. Life is about growth, and growth is about stepping outside of your comfort zone. You might not be where you want to be right now, but get comfortable in this stage, because your going to spend more of your life en route to your destination than you are actually at your destination.
Everyones faith system is different. I’m not saying you have to have faith in god, but having faith in something is incredibly important; karma, buddha, mother nature, whatever it is, have faith. Faith is honestly what keeps me sane day in and day out more times than not. Faith in a bigger plan that I’m not aware of, and will probably never we aware of. Recognize that not everything is going to make perfect sense at the present moment and be ok with it.